- Do I spend a weekly "date" with the my spouse? Or are all the available time taken up by the child?
- Have I started assigning simple chores for the child to do at home? Or am I still serving him from head to toe?
- When I come home, who do I run to first? My spouse or my kid?
Fulfill this leadership role well for the next 10 years and once the child enters the teenage years, your parenting season while transit successfully from one of leadership to one of mentoring/friendship. My heart aches when I see parents start off by being a friend and best buddy with their kid when young and then later on, when they realize that respect and obedience is missing in the teen years, they start to act authoritatively - which inevitably leads to rebellioussness! This is doing the right thing at the wrong time. Parenting with authority is great but it works effectively only during the primary years of age 3-13. Beyond that, any display of authoritative intervention is only going to backfire. What's the moral of the story?
Take charge of your parenting when the child is still in their primary years. It may mean being mean - but I would rather have them "hate" me in the short term to reap the long term effect of character growth. Work hard during the primary years and be persistent in your "sowing", and if you do not give up, you will "reap" the fruits of respect and character during the teen years. I believe that the teen years can be the most productive period of a child's life if the parenting is done deliberately during the first 13 years of their lives.
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